This morning, as I communicated with kids and teachers, I started to create a list of things that I miss and things that I don’t miss while being stuck in my house. Here is the list of things that I miss: my students, friends (other adults), daily routine, outings (concerts, museums, libraries), Wegmans (grocery shopping), coffee (from my favorite local spot), and watching sports. Here is the list of things that I don’t miss: driving my children to dozens of sporting practices and events a week, eating take-out or at a restaurant, waking up at 5:15 AM, the hectic weeknight schedule, (useless) meetings at school, listening to people complain (about school, students, their schedule, etc), nightly trips to the grocery store to buy things I don’t need (example: chocolate), and wasting money on coffee and treats (that I can make at home).
I found it very strange that my lists were almost even (7 things that I miss and 8 things that I don’t miss). I guess in my mind, before creating the list, I predicted that I missed more things than I didn’t miss. This leads me to a quote that I read on Saturday. It reads:
“In the rush to return to normal, use this time to consider which parts of normal are worth rushing back to.” – Dave Hollis
Is it normal that I drive anywhere between ten to fifty miles a night driving my children to sporting practices and games? Is it productive to sit in a meeting for thirty to one hundred and twenty minutes if nothing is getting accomplished? Do I need chocolate every single night of the week? Why do I arrive at 6:20 AM to school when the day starts at 7:45 AM? Can I ask a fellow teacher not to include me in all of the negative talk about school and students?
While I contemplate these questions (on runs, long walks, laying awake in bed), I am starting to find answers to these questions and my goal is to return to normal a different person (not better, not worse, just different). My goal is to have a different “normal” and more focus on what is important.
What do you miss? What don’t you miss?